How to Make a Relationship Last

This topic could spawn a thousand ideas and anecdotes about how to handle a relationship. Take note that in order to make a relationship last, you would have to consider the seed that you planted at the beginning of the relationship.

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What do I mean, precisely?

Think of a relationship as the human body. It would not matter what kind of relationship you are in, be it married, going out or a blossoming friendship. What you put inside your body will be reflected on how you look and ultimately, how you act. The same goes true with a relationship. Love alone is not enough to make a relationship prosper. Let this be known to one and all.

If you care for the seed properly, then the plant will grow healthy and strong. Building a solid relationship takes time, courage, perseverance and patience. You will notice that things fall naturally when you are with the right person. Plant the seed in the wrong kind of soil and the plant will ultimately die. People will differ accordingly and will tend to look at relationships differently but if you want to know how to make a relationship last, then the human essence should come into mind. It's easier said than done, I know, but its better than beating around the bush. Sensitivity should come into play and both of you should be sensitive to the needs of the other. This can be achieved by having a casual conversation every now and then. It never hurts to be honest. This is better than pretending to be quiet and everything is okay. No. You will hurt yourself in the long run.

While it is definitely important to spend a lot of time together, a successful relationship can be had with quality time apart as this will enable you and your special someone to grow as a person. This is an important aspect of every relationship, whether married or not. Learn to enjoy the company of friends even when the two of you are apart and you will find out that you ended up missing each other more.

The act of giving should also come into play as this is a crucial part on how to make a relationship last. But the act of giving should not be relegated to physical gifts alone. Learn to give yourself both physically and emotionally, especially if your partner manifests the same towards you. Simple chores like taking out the trash, cooking breakfast or dinner will play a big part in the foundation of your relationship. If your partner wants to watch TV with you (despite the fact that you have other things in mind) then do it. The simple act of allocating a few minutes of your time will yield dividends in your relationship.

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Money should not be the sole reason for an existing relationship and if this is the case, then I wish you all the best. Money is best left to be enjoyed, not as a means to build a solid foundation with your special someone. This holds true to any culture in every part of the world. In these tough financial times, you and your partner are always in a constant struggle for everyday survival. The ideal couple will talk things out and find ways on how to better supplement their income. Learn the value of sacrifice and do not be afraid to let go of habitual luxuries for the sake of the relationship. Common sense should come into play. If you cannot afford to buy a new car then don't. If getting a tall Starbucks latte is out of the budget, then why not whip out the blender and make your favorite coffee drink at home. Your partner will love you for it and appreciate the effort.

These are just a few things worth considering when finding ways on how to make a relationship last. In fact, all of these should fall naturally if you are with the right person. But what is the right person, anyway?

For me, the right person is the one who not only makes you fall head over heels in love, but allows you to grow and mature as an individual person. The right person will praise you for your success and scold you for your mistakes. The right person will be there regardless of financial condition and will stay there in times of desperate need. The right person will laugh with you in times of happiness and cry with you in times of despair. Finding the right person is never easy. But believe me, he/she is out there. I am lucky enough to find the right person for me and here's hoping that you find yours, too.

Feel free to leave a comment and share your thoughts regarding the topic. I would love to hear your insight regarding how to make a relationship work. I am not a guru or a shrink. But I am witness to countless trials and errors not only to myself, but with my friends as well. Of course, a break up is inevitable and we all get the chance to undergo such trials.

Remember that breaking up is not the end of the world. In fact, it marks a new transition period in your life-a transition towards self growth. A break up is the opportunity for both of you to reassess yourselves and think about the future. It really doesn't matter if you came from an abusive/tormented relationship, or if the break up was inevitable because you really were not meant to be together (probably due to personal differences) but the truth still remains.

A break up means yearning for personal growth. Others may call it "freedom" or "liberation" but the concept remains the same. What happens next after the break up is entirely up to you (as break ups tend to be temporary) but remember that a lasting relationship should enable both of you to grow individually as a person. Tips on breaking up are hard to come by but do not be ashamed to ask advice from your true friends.

This blog is meant for the average person to tell the world your feelings and thoughts regarding relationships with friends, lovers, family or the person you just met while going to/from work. In fact, this blog is better because you are ascertained that a kind heart with a kind soul is ready to listen to you or give advice no matter what the situation may be. You could use this blog to voice your opinions, frustrations, tribulations and other praises to the special someone in your life.

If you are willing to read, then I am very much willing to listen.